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Let me tell you something: I thought we wouldn't make it

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My great-grandfather was a rolling stone leaving my great-grandmother to raise 6 children alone. Both of my grandfathers left my grandmother. They both eventually remarried but my grandmothers didn’t. My family is laced with resilient, unmarried, divorced, separated, single women who are all strong and fierce in their own rights. But one day my maternal grandmother told me that wasn’t what she wanted for me.

When I was a little girl my grandmother prayed for my husband. She would constantly tell me that I would break the generational curse of broken marriages in my family. I had no idea what that meant, and I had no idea why I would be chosen of all people. Afterall, showed the least bit of qualifications and even potential. I never understood what this “curse braking” business was all about — but something in me made me believe that I could do it.

My beloved grandmother died of cancer when I was 19, and at that time all of my hopes and dreams were buried with her. Soon after, I chose to go into the world and live a life plagued with sin. That is when the vision of marriage seemed impossible, and I gave up on it. But God didn’t. When I finally welcomed Christ into my heart — God’s plan of redemption for my life was put into action. And His answer to my grandmother’s prayer came about quickly. God lead my path to intersect with a young hunk of chocolate named Paul. We became friends, then best friends. I eventually became wife, and the mother of his children. And we lived happily ever after – for like a week.

 

We were married when I was 22 years old. God placed women in my life who once had estranged marriages, were told to end their marriages, were separated, and who had marriages that were nearly dust. Now many of them are happily married for 25, 45 and 50 years. But even though I had such jewels of resources, I couldn’t seem to break through MY own norm.

I became a wife with no life-long reference point. I become a wife with the model of a broken family embedded in me. Successful relationships were a foreign concept. And while I had such shining models to look to, it was all still so very very new to me. I was lost in a big world of expectations, I rejected love, submission, and peace — they were very things I needed. Something had to give. I was ruining my marriage while outsiders assumed that we were still honeymooning. For the first five turmoiling months, our marriage was drowning fast like a boulder being thrown into sea.

Then one day I told the Lord “You have to help me.” It was at that moment that I knew He would… and I waited on Him. He came to my rescue and healed me, my husband, and our marriage. Although it took almost no time to break nearly every vow that I made to Paul on our wedding day, the Lord took our ashes and gave us beauty. He took our despair and in exchange He gave us something praise Him about.

And even though we have endured challenging and desperate times in the years to follow, God has held our marriage together with His loving hands. There were seasons that if His hands weren’t on our marriage, it would have fallen to the ground like broken glass.

Over the years God has carefully molded me into to the wife, mother, sister, and friend that I am today.

The generational curse in my family is broken- not through me, but through Christ.

This blog is dedicated to all of the young women like me. Those that were married without a clue of what to do — to wives who never saw a successful marriage– to mothers who are longing to love their children. It is to mothers and wives who grew up without a father. And to those women that the world rejected… this is for you.

You are God’s Beloved. You are your family’s beloved. And you are my beloved friend and sister.

As a wife and a mother of three sons, I need his grace more than ever.

So let’s do this together.

Kierra

Romans 9:25

Kierra | Beloved Mama

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35 🎂 I was dreading my first birthday after the 35 🎂 I was dreading my first birthday after the move to Michigan. I imagined that it would be cold, and I imagined fighting lonely feelings and wanting to be back in Virginia.  At least I knew I’d have my boys and Paul. 

But that’s when the faithfulness of God showed itself the most. In this cold dreary weather, He provided warmth in new family, new friends, and new community -  The kind that feels like it always was. 

This weekend, God showered me with good laughs, a challenging word at church, thoughtful gifts of my favorite things, chocolate cake, good food, a babysitter that we trust, seafood with Old Bay to remind me of home. Paul did whatever he could to make the memories beautiful - he answered every request, and sang his heart out. When I woke up this morning, my son had placed flowers all over the house, and he made a confetti pancake breakfast. And of course my day was full of text messages and phone calls from those voices that I love and miss so dearly. 

My heart has been at rest on this birthday and I’m so glad that we dared to trust God. If we hadn’t, I’d never know of this kind of grace. 

It’s the people that make a place feel like home. God is faithful to replenish the things that we gave up for His sake. 

So even though it’s cold, there’s a burning flame in my heart. And now finally, I’m warming up to this being my new home. 

So now at 35, I will continuously live out the fact that this life isn’t mine, it belongs to Jesus, and it’s the least I can do for how He gave His life for me. 

I miss my family in Virginia so much. 
And I’m thankful for my new family in Michigan just as much. 

Great is Thy Faithfulness ♥️

With a heart full of love from Detroit, 
Kierra
Noah insisted on wearing his snow boots to Virgini Noah insisted on wearing his snow boots to Virginia but it was 75 degrees. 🥴On our way home, something smelled like salt and vinegar and I looked behind me and saw that the smell was these 10 little stinky toes. 🙊Good thing he is cute tho, and the boots definitely worked on keeping those little feet warm. 

We will be making these long road trips a lot more in the future, and it reminds me that in life while the journeys are never perfect, getting there is all that really matters.

♥️
First stop… Coney Island! 🌭One thing we learn First stop… Coney Island! 🌭One thing we learned about Detroit super fast is that there’s a Coney Island on every corner.📍But before we find our regular neighborhood Coneys, we had to take adventure to visit the original one Downtown. The food and service was fast and great- plus we had a great time experiencing the city. 

Learning a new city has been scary to me sometimes, especially since I’ve lived in one place my whole life. But I have no choice but to dice in. This is us living outside of our comfort zone!
#AD Come with me to deck the halls with @biglots ! #AD Come with me to deck the halls with @biglots ! Shopping was so fun and easy - and affordable - that I got a little carried away, but who doesn’t get a little carried away at Christmas? When I got home I was able to make just the right selections to create a warm and welcoming entryway with my Big Lots holiday finds! [link in bio]🎄

#BigLotsFinds
#AD The entryway to your house can set the tone fo #AD The entryway to your house can set the tone for your entire home, and this Christmas season, I wanted to make my entryway feel like a warm Christmas hug for all who enter. 

So you know, I had to stop at @biglots to see what treasures I could find, without breaking the bank. I found everything I was looking for, and a little extra too - the hardest part was not getting carried away. 

Now, I'm loving my space, and I can’t wait to welcome all of my friends and family over for the holidays. 🎄 [Link in bio]

#BigLotsFinds
♥️“These are God’s problems” ♥️ The ♥️“These are God’s problems” ♥️

The hardest part of our transition from Virginia to Michigan was the last six weeks. Paul traveled for two weeks on his own, and then when school started our two middle boys traveled with him to attend school.  Our oldest and youngest were in 
Virginia with me. 

Every weekend for one month Paul drove 10 hours both ways so that we could be together again and to help with the preparations for moving. I told him to stay but he insisted on traveling back because we needed each other. 

He was right. It was a lonely and uncertain time. We felt like nowhere was truly home, expect for when we were together. 

As I look back, I didn’t think that a transition like this should be easy, but honestly, I hoped that it would be. 

Things went wrong. Plans got delayed. Sometimes we were exhausted, frustrated, and weary. 

But through it all, God was our provider, our defender, and our grace. He was the one who turned every NO into YES and all of our delays into nows. I had to fully lean on Him as my Father, because for the first time in my adulthood I truly felt like a helpless child. 

This is what we had to live by. When you are obedient to God and you face obstacles, every single problem belongs to Him. Our problems were God’s problems, not our own. We would say “These are God’s problems” 

We kept praying, and He kept answering. Our daily bread was His love and faithfulness. 

When the journey is hard, depend on the One who sent you. 

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.”

Proverbs 3:5-6 ♥️
Hey Mama! We moved to Detroit 🛞♥️🎵 I al Hey Mama! We moved to Detroit 🛞♥️🎵

I always wondered what it would be like to take an adventure in life, to start over or to answer a call in a different place. I’d daydream about the what-ifs only to  snap out of it, and to be content with my reality. 

We spent our entire lives in Virginia and now more than ever, our entire lives are in the hands of God. 

Paul was asked to come to Detroit to help lead a public charter school. We knew this was part of our assignment, and after a series of events we packed the boxes and made our home in the Motor City. 

Sometimes when I tell the locals our story, they ask, “Why would you come here?” My answer can go no further than “Because God told us to” 
 
I don’t know the fullness of His plan. But that’s the best part. We gave God our “Yes” and the rest belongs to Him! 

Now, where are my Midwest mamas? Help a Southern sista out, it’s snowed already and they don’t have sweet tea! 

♥️Trust Him 

 #heybelovedmama #whatupdoe #detroitmoms
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